|Posted on May 28, 2018 at 11:00 AM|
It's a Royal Affair
Part 2: In Honor of Doria Ragland
The most memorable moment for me was watching Doria Ragland. That was also a proud moment for me as it was the epitome of sacrifice, love, and grace. Her presence set the Windsor Castle on fire! As she sat there waiting for her daughter to walk down the aisle I couldn’t stop my tears from falling.
If I may be honest, single parenting has been my most challenging job and it comes with many insecurities and fear. I came from a two-parent household, so this world looks totally different from what I am used to. I wanted to be a mom, but I can’t say I wanted to do it alone. Don’t get me wrong, motherhood brings me joy and it is a huge blessing, but I spend a lot of moments thinking, am I doing this parenting thing right.
I often get caught up in the horror stories of single parenting. The stories that say that children from one parent households are at a disadvantage and can lead to negative outcomes such as poor physical health, depression, suicide, poor academic performance, etc. I get so fixated on the negative impact of single parenting that I consistently stress about “doing it right.” I forget about the joys of parenting and sometimes still may miss the mark.
When I am surrounded by mothers and fathers raising their children together, I sometimes feel embarrassed and ashamed that my daughter will never experience this. I also feel judged. I must admit at times I am up late feeling guilty and sad that I failed my daughter.
As I watched Doria Ragland, I got lost in her radiant beauty and found peace in knowing that I will be okay. I had an epiphany. What if I focused on the image of Doria Ragland to conquer my feelings of single parenting opposed to all the other negative images? What if I showed up to motherhood everyday doing my best and being my best, instilling morals, values, and teaching her what love and humanity is?
Doria Ragland gave me hope and confirmed the fact that perhaps love is enough. Yes, Meghan Markle is now a part of the Royal family, but she was first Doria Ragland’s daughter. When I am in my 60s, I too want to be able to look into my daughter’s eyes and be proud of the women that she is. I want my daughter’s light to shine everywhere she goes.